Am I the same person I was before I became a Mum?
I've been thinking about this question quite a lot recently. My littlest Keepsake started school in September and with this I feel have entered a new chapter in my life, I feel as if I suddenly have a bit more breathing space. I don't know about you but everything has either been in fast forward or pause since I very first became pregnant, I haven't had time to think about anything other than my babies and their feelings. Now with three school aged children there is some time and so it got me thinking. There's no denying I am older, slightly rounder and considerably more exhausted than I was pre children, I do a lot less clubbing and a LOT more tidying (how on earth can small people make such a mess ALL the time?) but after much deliberation I think essentially I am the same person underneath. I still put massive value in my friendships, I still wake up with a head full of ideas and the desire to run with them, I still love a bit of good old fashioned gossip, I still need my mum to listen to me when I am upset and I still get irate at the injustice of racism, sexism and deprivation. So, yes I am still the same person but I am happy to report I am in a place where I am comfortable with myself, this was perhaps something I was lacking in my teens and early twenties. I no longer feel the need to fit with the trend and I am more confident in my own decisions. In short being a mum has made me a better version of myself , albeit a greyer and less streamlined version!
What about you? Are you the same, different or a bit of both? I found it really difficult to define who I am when I started to think about this. Have a go and do let me know, I would love to hear. What are YOUR priorities to yourself? What makes you happy? What makes you mad? What do you place great value in? What do you like about yourself?
20 years of friendship, 5 children between us, numerous jobs, mortgages and busy lives yet we are still exactly the same when together - I guess some things never change. 'Dobson, Dobson, give us a wave' xxx